Life After Cancer: Fitting 20 lbs. of Life into a 5 lb. Bag
Are you someone who starts your day with a list of things to do that realistically should be spread over multiple days? Your list gets long. As each day passes, the list gets longer and longer because there are so many things you want to do. Individually each task on the list may take several hours to accomplish. Accumulatively the tasks may take days, weeks or even months to accomplish. Your day-to-day living of life after cancer is likened to fitting 20 lbs. of life into a 5 ob. Bag.
I took several months off from writing. I, or shall I say we, decided to downsize. We downsized not just my home, but my 92 year old mother’s home as well. Two homes downsized to fit into one. Not just one house, but a home already occupied by my boyfriend – who, I must mention, is a packrat – someone who owns not one or two of everything, but four of everything! Downsizing for this move was the most daunting task I think I have ever tackled.
I had to make a list to stay on track and not overlook any detail. My list of things to do grew beyond my wildest dreams. So my list went something like this:
- Go through every nook and cranny of both homes to decide what to keep, what to sell at a garage sale and what to trash. Please note, I lived in this home for over 21 years. My mother and her husband had been in their home for over 14 years.
- Find and contact an antique dealer to unload family heirlooms
- Organize not one, but two garage sales
- Contact a realtor
- Prep both houses for placement on the market
- Contact and schedule movers
- Contact a charity to haul contents that do not sell at garage sales.
- Contact a company to haul off trash
- Sell both houses
By the way, during all this chaos, I had two special events for my jewelry business, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and house guests – each event having its own list of things to do.
After the dust settled from the holidays, I then decided to tackle landscaping the backyard of my new dwelling – a steeply sloped hillside that backs up to Army Corps of Engineer land. This simply stated task has taken me four months to complete. It began with researching deer resistant plants (the corps land is loaded with deer!). I also researched plants that make great ground cover on a hillside, and plants for both sun and shaded locations. I then progressed to researching stair options and installation. Finally, I got my hands dirty with the actual physical terracing and planting the hillside.
BTW – as I write a deer is passing by the window!
The final result of the landscaping project has become my mecca, my place of peace and relaxation. So after my time away from writing, I have created a new vantage point from which to oversee my life – a new vantage point through my new dwelling and a very special vantage point right in my own backyard! A place where I can contemplate my life after cancer – a place where I can create new lists – fitting 20 lbs. of life into a 5 lb. bag.