What have you done?



What have you done?

This question rings loud and clear to a child when a parent asks, What have you done?  Immediately the child’s imagination tries to create some answer that sways the blame and attention from themselves to, well… preferably to someone else. If it can’t be someone else’s fault, then surely something else was the cause.

I remember a time when I had my slippers on with my feet against the wall while watching television. I left two nice black marks on the wall, with tread lines from the soles of my slippers and all. When Mom asked, What have you done?, well I confess, I did try to pull off the blame onto my brother. That didn’t last long, maybe a total of two seconds. Mom was quick to point to my slippers and asked me to show her the bottom tread. Ruh-roh!

The direct question, What have you done?, holds the exact same daunting accusation when we ask ourselves, what did we do that caused cancer? If you haven’t asked yourself this question, then you had better ask today. I can guarantee you will not find one single-source answer. Instead you will begin to uncover areas in your life that, hopefully, you have already begun to change since your diagnosis. You actually may uncover more areas you are now willing to change. I hope you do because I believe you must change your behavior patterns in order to stop new cancer growth. Surgery, chemotherapy and radiation are available to us to remove what is there, but their function is not to keep new cancer growth from starting again. If there would be such a drug, we would all be taking the drug as a preventative or maintenance drug.

Change is a continual process that even I still do today, now 10 years, 355 days away from diagnosis (that means in 10 days I will celebrate surviving ovarian cancer for 11 years!)…not that anybody is counting…I’m just saying…something I have been doing all these years is working!

To be continued…